You have to know yourself to grow yourself! Hopefully, you read last week’s post and have a good idea of your unique personality blend. This week we dig into why this is such helpful information as you seek to maximize your potential. You may have noticed that all the descriptive words in the final picture in last week’s post are positive. When you are behaving under control you have a very positive impact on others. However, when you are not under control, you can be perceived by others in a negative light.
For instance, if your primary style is “D”, you are direct, decisive, a doer, etc. when under control. Out of control, you can be seen as bossy, arrogant, deceptive, etc.
If your primary personality style is “I”, you are friendly, outgoing, inspiring, etc. when under control. Out of control, you can be perceived as pushy, illogical, too talkative, etc.
If your primary style is “S”, you are sweet, stable, serving, etc. when under control. Out of control you may be seen as soft, uncooperative, too sensitive, a sucker, etc.
If you are a “C” type, you are cautious, calculating, correct, curious, when under control. Out of control, you may be seen as critical, condescending, uncooperative, indecisive, etc.
It was Oswald Chambers who observed that “an unguarded strength is a double weakness!”
Does any of that sound familiar? When your strengths are pushed too far, the truly become weaknesses. Then you may be shocked by how you are treated, and this can lead to a poor self-image, which causes low self-esteem!
Remember, as Ethel Waters said, “God don’t make no junk!” You were created as you are and that is all good. There are no “bad” personality styles, just bad behavior. And your behavior is absolutely your choice in life. To be ware of harmful behavior, you must be aware of the harmful behavior, and what causes it. Typically, stressful situations are what push you into your negative behavior. So, be aware and beware.
So, to improve your self-image and increase your self-esteem, you must know yourself and then take responsibility for your behavior. If you understand this Model of Human Behavior, you will also be aware of others around you, and be able to adapt to better relate to them. Healthy relationships also improve your own self-image.
I know I make a big deal of this, but that is on purpose. I believe that self-image and self-esteem, are primary keys in a person being successful in maximizing their potential. It is not enough for you to believe you can succeed. You must believe you are worth being successful. Until you do, you will consistently self-sabatoge.
So, are you ready to take intelligent responsibility for who you are and how you behave?
If you are interested in getting much more helpful info about this, consider clicking the link below and getting your own unique DISC report.
Next week we look at Part 3 of the Self-awareness step.
Thank for investing the time to read this, and congratulations for investing in your own growth.
Make your day and week GREAT!