Tired of the results you are getting in life, work, relationships? Want to learn how to root out those results, and how to replace them with better results?
As I work with coaching clients and consulting clients, We are often faced with needing to replace mediocre, poor, or even bad results with results that are more desired by the client. What I usually find is that the client has been focused on the results, and wants them changed, but they remain the same. Why is this?
What people often fail to realize is that their results are not the problem. Yes, you read that correctly! Results are simply the fruit. If you want apples, you don’t plant a pear tree, right? No, you plant an apple tree. The tree’s health and productivity is controlled by the roots. The health of the roots is determined by the soil in which the tree is planted. In life this same truth applies.
In your life, or that of your business, church, or organization, the results are simply the fruit of the “tree, the roots, and the soil” of your mind or inner life, Your heart (not to be confused with that organ that pumps blood). It is in your mind that change really is created. Hang on, I promise not to get so deep this gets muddy!
Your thoughts – those that you focus on, desire to come true – this is where true change begins. This is your “soil.” Here’s why: Your thoughts (not the fleeting thoughts we experience) ignite your emotions or feelings. Think about this and you will realize that this is true. When you think of something pleasant, how do you feel? Pleasant, right? Or, when you think of something negative or unpleasant, how do you feel? See what I mean. Thoughts really do control your mood, feelings, emotions.
It is out of those feelings or emotions, that actions – these are the tree – are generated. Your emotions, feelings, mood – these are the “roots.” Those actions are effective over the long term, only when they match the feelings or emotions that are fixed within the person. You have likely experienced this truth. Ever tried to change a habit? Often we are able to make that change for the short term, but for the change to endure our thinking, or beliefs and values, must change.
So, what is the rest of the story? Glad you asked. The fact is that simply wanting a change does not produce the change. You have to “see” yourself as changed, desire that change, and be willing to “live into” that change with commitment.
I remember a book I read when I was a small child. It was titled, The Little Engine That Could. Did you read that book? Remember, When the engine saw the big hill he had to climb, he had to overcome his negative thinking with possibility thinking, and that led to positive belief.
At first, “I can’t, I can’t.
Then, “I think I can, I think I can.”
And then, “I know I can, I know I can.”
And the little engine climbed the hill!
So, what do you think?