You know what you want to be, and you know what to do to get there, but you are being held back. What is stopping you? What is holding you back? The Terror Barrier!
As a professional Coach, I deal with clients facing this more than any other issue. So, today, let’s think about the fix to this problem.
Most people aspire to a better version of themselves, but aspiring just creates more perspiring! Aspiring that does not result in forward motion, is simply a longing. People die every day with their longings bottled up inside them.
Aspiring is intended to lead us to lead us to discover what/who we want to become, what we want to achieve, and then chart a course that we follow to completion. Too few actually follow through. Why?
It is the dreaded TERROR BARRIER! If you are facing one in your life, you are not alone. Actually, the terror barriers we face have a good purpose. They should cause us to reflect on why it is there. Is it a real threat, or is it just a figment of our imagination. One sage has said, “FEAR” is False Evidence Appearing Real! That is often the case.
Another thing the Terror Barrier is designed to do is to protect us from real threats. If I see a Rattle Snake, I am afraid – and rightly so. The terror barrier may save my life.
As I work with coaching clients, I often find that they are fearful with no rational reason. I understand that. I have an extreme fear of heights. I was up on the observation deck of the Empire State Building a few years ago. As I got close to the heavy wire fence that keeps people from falling, I was so afraid that my knees were shaking! There was zero chance that I would fall to my death, but that made no difference. I was scared! That is an irrational fear, and that is what we must recognize and work through.
So, what do you do when you are faced by a Terror Barrier? You evaluate the root threat, and respond accordingly. Here is a tip that will help you. If the source (root) of the fear is irrational, DO IT AFRAID!
Afraid to pick up the phone to make a sales call? What is causing the fear? Is your product worth selling? If so, swallow hard, know your script, and pick up the phone.
Afraid of rejection? Remember that a rejection is just a “No” for now, not forever!
Afraid of looking foolish? Get over it. I promise you that no one thinks you are that important, except you!
So, when the Terror Barrier pops up, recognize it for what it is, a great instinct that calls you to evaluate the threat and then move forward, or backward, based on the facts.
This is me wishing you a great breakthrough!
Make Your’s A Great Day!